Lately around work, marriage has been a constant topic. A co-worker of mine recently got married, and another one is getting married next week. Naturally being single myself, the comments always come like "So when are you getting married?" or "You could be the next one to be having a shower." or "Are you going to be joining the club?" So now not only am I not married, I have to feel excluded from this exclusive club too! Do these people think that husbands grow on trees and I can just go out and pick one when I am ready? I think they all need a reality check, and just because they have found their path to happily-ever-after, doesn't mean everyone else has.
To make matters worse, the conversations go on to say how great marriage is, and how fun it is, and that it is the best thing ever! Seriously, give me a break. I am already painfully aware of how alone I am and how lonely and boring it is to be single, you don't need to talk up what I don't have.
Not only is marriage the topic, it is also babies. The one thing that comes after marriage that, despite what I might say, I do want.
Life was designed to feel completed by someone else and be fulfilled by children, but I just can't win at this game of life.
I know I am only 22 and shouldn't be in a rush to get married, but it seems like I am either being told to get married or not be in a rush. Make up your mind people, and only give me a hard time for one or the other.
P.S. If anyone happens to find my husband, please tell him I am looking for him, thanks.
7 comments:
OK, first, I want to cry. This post makes me so sad. Let me see if I can make you feel better. "The Club" is over-rated.
OK, not really. Um...pregnancy sucks. That one really is true. Feeling better yet.
I love you tons. I just want you happy.
Girlfriend, it's gonna come. You are the most beautiful, fun, talented girl and stop worrying about it. Besides, marriage is HARD. Even if you get an awesome guy, it's tough and you really have to grow up, work hard, and balance a lot that you didn't have to worry about before. Enjoy these times because it's gonna come! I promise you! And you are going to love it. But don't ever EVER get down on yourself for not being married. You're right, you're 22. I have no doubt in my mind your prince charming is right around the corner, just be patient. But don't you get down on yourself little missy, you are beautiful.
Oh, Jill. What can I say. I remember when I couldn't have kids I had the same feelings. I thought everyone was pregnant around me, everyone talked about babies, and everyone always said my day would come. Well, you never know for sure if it is going to happen or not. And who would of thought 4 years ago when I was going through in vitro that I would all of a sudden become Fertile Myrtle and birth litters. None of us know what the future holds. And now when I look back, everything did happen for a reason. I know that is a cheesy cliche, but it is true.
Anyways, maybe there will be a ton of hotties in the new singles ward. You never know, lightning could strike.
Hang in there. We love having the basement dweller with us and my kids get more excited when you come home than when I do. Do we need a girls night tonight and go shopping or something???
Well guys, I didn't mean to sound like such a Debbie Downer, but I appreciate all your kind words. I hope it will happen, but it was more an observation of the summer wedding season. You are all the best!
What exactly is Amy saying? If she's comparing her situation to yours, is saying that you'll end up with 5 husbands. Whoa.
Whoa, let's not get carried away!! I would be ok with just one!
Hey Jill...
My husband seems to be missing too! I have been looking for him everywhere! Him and my lost boyfriend must be in cahoots together... dang them....
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